Self compassion is an interesting term. Does it mean thinking nice thoughts? Treating yourself to dinner? In truth, it can look like a lot of different things. We asked a few people what self-compassion looks like to them.

Although their answers differed dramatically, each shared one key aspect: being kind to yourself.

“Ordering a pizza when it’s my turn to cook.” – Brooke

“Saying to myself: It’s okay, you’re doing a great job” – Adi

“Not expecting myself to be perfect” – Lauren

“Reading one more chapter of a book rugged up in bed” – Luke

“Cuddling my cat” – Laura

“Forgiving myself when I make mistakes” – Deb

“Watching a trashy movie with my sister and niece on a Saturday night” – Dimitry

Self compassion can feel like an enormous concept. It can also feel difficult to achieve when life has thrown you a few curveballs.

But showing yourself some compassion doesn’t need to be an enormous task. Instead, it can be having a cup of your favourite tea, calling an old friend at the end of the day, or just silently congratulating yourself for something you’ve done recently.

The most important thing is finding a way to treat yourself with kindness over criticism, and ensuring you’re treating yourself as well as you would treat a friend.


To work out what self-compassion looks like to you, book into our Self Compassion Workshop Saturday October 28th with Danica Hade. In this workshop, you’ll discover the science and practice of self-compassion, learn why self-compassion is essential for health, wellbeing and motivation, and learn how to practice self-compassion.

Written by The Mind Room

The Mind Room is a health, wellbeing and performance psychology community based in Melbourne.

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